Our biggest challenge with dealing with the addiction to pornography was identifying what the root issues were. We came to the conclusion that it wasn’t just the issue of pornography, but lust. Lust is “having a sexual desire for someone” (dictionary.com) and when it is for someone other than your wife, that is when it becomes a sin. Lust is adultery of the heart (Matt. 5:28). We also needed to identify who we are. We are righteous children of God (Gal. 3:26), made in His image (Gen. 1:27) and covered in His grace (Rom. 6:24).We believe that just because we are covered in his grace, we can’t just keep sinning. Once we repent, we are called to turn from our ways, and follow His ways.
The more we have a relationship with Him, the less we will have a relationship with this world.
We made changes in our every day to work on a relationship with Jesus and make it our number one priority.
We were already attending church weekly, but we made more of an effort in our everyday to be in prayer. Not just on our own but with each other and with the kids. We also started reading the Bible together more often and talking about what we are reading. We no longer ask “how was your day?”, we ask “how was your day today, as in, how was your relationship with God today?”. We also have been making an effort to focus on relationships with other. We started with our families and close friends. We don’t want to be just surface level but we want to talk about the things that truly matter.
The main solution to overcome any sin is to take our focus off the sin and put it on Him. He is the way, the truth, and the light. (John 14:6) If we have our eyes on Him, we will fall less.
We also believe that there are some things that need to be done to overcome sin because faith without works is dead (James 2:26).
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.” (James 5:16)